Even when divorce is necessary or in the best interests of all parties involved, rarely is the dissolution of a marriage actually simple. When you and your spouse disagree on certain aspects of the divorce, things can quickly become unpleasant and expensive. Here are some tips for avoiding problems in a contentious divorce and how to find reliable legal help.

Consider What Compromises You Are Willing or Able to Make

In most divorces, compromise is required. However, it is entirely up to you to decide what matters you will and will not yield on. It’s important to define ahead of time which issues are less significant to you than others. Things that aren’t as important should be up for negotiations first. Then, you are likely to have more bargaining power on the issues that you care more about and don’t want to concede on. 

Know That Communicating In Writing Is In Your Best Interests 

Don’t make the common mistake of communicating verbally with your ex-spouse or making verbal deals or agreements. These are too easy to back out of and leave you with little to nothing to show on your side to prove that there was any agreement in place. 

It’s in you and your family’s best interests to communicate with your ex-spouse in writing only, or at least back up a verbal conversation with a written confirmation. 

Look Into the Possibility of Going Through Mediation  

Mediation is a process by which you can potentially work through your issues and reach an agreement with your ex-spouse without having to go to court or let a judge make the decisions for you. 

While couples who are in highly contentious divorces are less likely to be good candidates for mediation, you may be able to avoid litigation if you and your ex can at least talk to each other and make some concessions in an effort to reduce the time, cost, and stress of your New York divorce. At the end of mediation, if successful, you’ll have a finalized divorce decree without having to go to court. 

Don’t Hesitate to Reach Out to a Brooklyn Divorce Attorney for Assistance Now 

Dealing with a divorce is challenging, no matter which side of the issue you’re on. You deserve zealous legal support and advocacy. Contact Mary Katherine Brown for an initial consultation to discuss the specifics of your divorce case by calling (718) 878-6886.